I negotiated a whopper of a deal for you
here today with my good friend David Michael.

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tushar I don’t know what in the world
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David says if for any reason you don’t make
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P.S. This deal obviously won’t last long so
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SFI MG.

This will seem a bit out of the blue but to be
honest I can’t believe I hadn’t heard about this
sooner myself…

Recently I’ve been in contact with a guy called
Andrew Hansen. You might have heard of him as the
guy from that report with the crazy name, Niche
Marketing On CRACK…

If you hadn’t heard, Andrew teaches a method of
creating super profitable mini sites that revolves
around the creation of ever SEO friendly but very
specifically designed and researched WordPress blogs…

On his page he has some testimonials that
demonstrate how powerful these blogs really are…
One of his students made over $700 in her first month
with just ONE of these blogs that took just a few hours to
create (that was before the new development I’m about to
tell you of – now the same blog/mini site can be
created in just 5 minutes.)

People who start in Niche Marketing often find
that it can be hard to maintain and manage more than
a few mini sites because updating the sites, managing
them, and still having time to build more to grow
the empire is too much of a task… but that’s about
to change.

May 9th saw the release of what I think is to be
a revolutionary piece of software for Niche Marketers.

It is called Niche Empire Generator…

If you’re thinking this program is another site
generator you’d be hugely mistaken. As the name suggests
this thing can actually give you the ability to
build and manage a niche site EMPIRE, all from one
single control panel.

What exactly do I mean by this?

Well, to give you an idea, owners of this software now have:

1. The power to be able to create profitable niche sites
at light speed.. (I’m talking within 5 minutes… if you
saw the video you’ll know what I mean)

This includes:

- Adding Adsense and affiliate links to your sites
with the click of a button, no editing HTML code.

- Adding a theme or template that you want the blog
to have, with one click.

- Adding CONTENT, to your site, any content
you choose, formatted however you choose, with your
chosen links automatically embedded.

- Adding and activating a bunch of wordpress plugins to ensure
your blog is easy to navigate, super SEO friendly,
social bookmarking benefiting, and much more, in
fact with no clicks, all automatic…

- Submitting your sites RSS feed to RSS directories
on the web for instant backlinks and exposure for
your site.

- Automatically pinging the major ping services,
helping your sites get ranked in the SE’s faster.

2. The ability to have those sites frequently and
automatically updated. You can select what content
you want to be posted to the blog and WHEN it is
to be posted, at any date in the future PLUS it will
automatically assign intervals that you chose so
you don’t have to select a date each time.

3. It can do this for as MANY blogs as you create,
running an empire of blogs for you automatically!

4. It manages each of your sites from a single
control panel… If you want to change any feature
of any site you have ever made, update anything
manually, OR check where your site is ranking
in the search engines (to know how much more work
has to be done on it) you can also do so from
a single control panel.

I could go on and on but I feel it would only
shortchange what Andrew has done here.

If you are looking to increase your online income
with minimal additional effort I strongly recommend
you get yourself a copy of this software today.

Click the link below now, to witness Niche Empire
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To Your success,

Nikju

P.S. I’m not sure what Andrew’s doing with the price
on this one but I know it’s worth a hell of a lot
more than what he’s asking. I wouldn’t be surprised
if we see it jump up significantly in the next few
days.

To say that I am impressed would be a major understatement. I mean, what he is offering to free members is just insane.

This is one of the very few sites that I have found that is literally giving away so mach value to free members!

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Thank you for your time and I will see you in the members area.

To Your Success,
Tushar

I realized something important this week about how men think and act.

It’s that men who pay attention and think about the feelings they have, why they have them, what they mean and how to talk about them are RARE.

And it’s even more unique and special for a man to pay attention to his feelings in relationships with women and to be able to talk openly about them.

So like everyone else, I like to think that I’m special.

But am I really different than other men?

Ok, I’m hoggin the newsletter for myself, my ego is getting carried away…

Here’s what I want to talk to you about-

Why can’t men talk about their feelings?

It’s like they’re helpless morons when it comes to knowing and sharing how they feel with you.

And why do men react so weird when you want to talk about things like issues, emotions, relationships, commitment, marriage?

The answer is pretty fascinating but has more than one simple dimension to it.

Let me ask you…

Have you ever asked a man how he feels about you or your situation and then he starts acting all freaked out?

He turns into a deer in headlights.

Or even worse, he starts getting angry and frustrated and turns the conversation back on you with unrelated problems or issues.

Well, you’ve run into the BRICK WALL guys have with relationship communication.

And guess what?

It’s YOUR fault!

Yep, I’m not letting you shift the blame to someone else for what matters in your life.

As some of my more enlightened friends like to say:

“Don’t go to victim”

If you know someone can’t communicate a certain way, it’s up to you to find a better way.

Then once you can reach them you can help them improve.

As the saying goes,

“Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice and shame on me.”

So are you continuing to bang your head against the brick wall?

Shame on you!

Lots of women do – all their lives over and over in relationships until they’ve become convinced that men are idiots and you can’t ever make things work.

Quit it for cryin’ out loud!

There’s a better way, but you’ll never figure things out just trying what makes sense to YOU.

Don’t be RIDICULOUS!

(here’s where I get all up in your face!)

Planning and approaching issues in your life just by what “makes sense” is not only naive, it’s honestly pretty stupid.

That’s why people go to school, they go to college, they study and read, they go through job training and THEN they go out and make a go of it.

So how much thinking, planning, reading and learning have you done around the things that effect your relationships and your love life?

Maybe you picked up the latest best-seller by some publishers daughter on something dumb like how swans mate and are monogamous and you and your guy can be beautiful and happy like swans in love too…

Hey, not a bad idea. Maybe I’ll write a book about that.

Not!

Seriously though…

Are you banging your head against the wall?

Or are you looking to learn?

Here something fascinating to learn…

Men have a “SECRET BUTTON” you can push that will make communicating with them almost effortless.

And if you learn what it is and how to use it you’ll be able to get at what he really thinks and feels… and teach him how to talk to and understand you.

So let me take you through a situation I guarantee you’ve either been in before or you’ll be in with a man…

HELLO!

That means pay attention because this is one of those “universal situations” that can mean priceless knowledge for you.

Let’s say your talking with a man you’re interested in and you want to take things to “the next level” but you don’t know how.

And you’ve been waiting on him to talk to you or express his interest or love for a while.

But he hasn’t done that, and you get a little disappointed and frustrated with things.

You’ve tried being patient and talking with your friends but you’ve got to know how he feels and you need things to move forward.

So what do you do?

Well, most women build up everything they’re thinking inside until they have to let it out in one big emotional release.

And guess what men see when this happens?

No, they don’t see how much you care or love them and how amazing it is that you want to be with them.

Somehow instead of seeing the good and the positive intentions you have, they see intense negative emotions that they can’t understand.

And men get scared of emotions that are really intense or that they don’t understand.

Most of all, they just aren’t used to them.

So when you share your feelings and want to know his feelings for you, he freaks out.

He either becomes the “deer-in-headlights” guy or the “angry-frustrated-scared” guy.

Most women do what makes sense in this situation – they push and encourage the man to talk, to get in touch with his feelings and to share HER feelings.

But men don’t see it as positive encouragement.

They see it as you being “over-emotional” and pushy about the issue.

(Yeah, I know… Men are freakish emotional creatures!)

When you resist or react negatively in any conversation, everything becomes more difficult.

And the WORST mistakes you can make here with a man I call the 4 Deadly Sins:

- Assuming – that he knows what you want or expect
- Begging – for him to “give you” what you want
- Convincing – trying to make him feel the way you do
- Bullying – bullying him into your way of thinking or feeling.

You will never have any long term success with a man if you keep doing these.

You’ll be beating yourself against the “BRICK WALL”.

So what’s the “SECRET BUTTON”?

Well, remember that there’s a catch to all improvements in your life, right?

So the same goes for this button thing.

You’ve got to make it happen by changing YOUR communication first in order to push his communication button.

It’s up to you to get a man’s fears and defenses out of the way so you can get to the bottom of things.

And getting past the masks men can wear with women out of fear is the essence of “pushing the button”.

Here’s the 5 basic steps I’ve recognized that you can use to push his “secret button”. And I’ll give you some examples to give you a general idea of what these are as best I can in a short newsletter:

Step 1) The Primer

This is a the “starter” for the conversation that will build an entirely positive context – and it might seem like something you could skip, but it’s actually the most important step. It might be something like starting off talking with positive comments about the time you’ve been spending together and some of the great times you’ve had. The idea is ALL about setting the right context so a guy becomes positive, comfortable and opens up.

Step 2) Casual Introduction

This is the first step into “where things are going”. Instead of springing “the talk” on him, keep talking about positives, the good things, the things you want to continue that are WORKING. If you don’t have too many of these things, think harder. You’re interested in a future with this guy for some reason, right? But don’t just compliment him. Make sure it’s about BOTH of you, and how you are together, not just about him.

Step 3) Applying With Positive Strokes

So now you’re tuning into each other a bit in the conversation and sharing thoughts about the good things you have together.

Then tell him, “Hey, you know what’s great? I bet you and I see things differently, which is OK, but I love spending time with you and we have such a great time together”.

Again, you’re getting into a conversation about relationships that will eventually turn to your situation, but you’re doing it in a way that doesn’t trigger any resistance or fear from the man – and this is what you’re aiming for.

Step 4) Non-situational Honesty

Step 5) Active Listening

Step 4 and 5 are a bit more complex so I’ll save them for another time.

But steps 1, 2 and 3 are a lot to work with and get you thinking.

If you follow these it will blow a man away

AND even better… it will create massive ATTRACTION!

Yeah, imagine that.

By talking about serious relationship “stuff” you won’t scare a guy off.

No, you’ll actually make his attraction for you STRONGER.

How?

Well, men secretly wish that they had women that they felt completely open and comfortable with to share their feelings, thoughts and desires on subjects they usually have a hard time with.

It feels REALLY good to talk about things, especially if they’ve been bottled up!

I bet you’ve felt that too.

When you push the button for a man, he experiences a kind of open and honest communication “release”.

And the more intense the topic or issue is, the more amazing and “freeing” the experience is.

For men, there’s nothing tougher and more foreign than getting really in touch with their emotions and sharing them with someone.

When you’re then one to do this, men almost can’t believe it.

They instantly see you as someone unique, rare, and “cool”.

And when you can talk about tough issues in a way that makes them easy and fun and you have the right amount or “detachment” from the outcome, it makes men EXTREMELY attracted to you.

So what exactly are these 5 detailed steps to push a man’s communication button?

I talk about each step in detail, exactly what to do, and the common mistakes to avoid in my eBook: “Catch Him And Keep Him”

You can check out all the details here:

Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

©Copyright 2008, Catch Him Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Copyright materials used by permission.
“Catch Him And Keep Him” and “Christian Carter”
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Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys -
Who Do You Love?

You’re about to spend the most useful 5 minutes you’ve ever spent on improving your future love life.

Read this…

There’s something I want you to do that I KNOW will improve your natural ability to read into a man’s behavior and his mind.

And learning to do this homework could mean the difference between being

HAPPY & IN-LOVE or LONELY & SINGLE.

Whoa… that’s pretty intense – I’ll tone it down for a sec and give you something to take your mind to off some of the potential negative stuff that you might be thinking about here…

Did you see the final Sex and the City episode where Carrie went to Paris with her lover?

Carrie’s in Paris with her boyfriend and begins to wonder if she made the right decision to move away with this man who, deep down inside, she know’s doesn’t want the same type of life and relationship she does.

As she makes this realization, her ex, “Big”, has flown to Paris from New York looking to reconcile with his lost love after realizing his undying love for Carrie.

And of course, as with all good TV, the two find each other by luck and fate, and Big finally professes his love.

Talk about romantic, intense, suspenseful and full of great drama!

Ok, I thought that might do the trick to warm you back up.

So what does the story of Carrie’s love life have to do with YOUR love life?

More than you might think – but we’ll get to that.

That’s why this week I’m giving you a short homework assignment – and this is what could be the most valuable 5 minutes you’ll ever spend on your love life:

I need you to think about one of the first things I recognized about women way back in junior high – it’s something I still see it today in our “grown-up” dating world.

Why don’t women pick the right guys?

Or even more to the point – why do women pick all the wrong guys?

If you’ve had your heart broken, been cheated on, or find yourself giving everything you’ve got inside, to get little or nothing in return, then you know what I’m talking about.

****Right Now****

Take 5 minutes of time to yourself.

Tune the rest of the world out for just these 5 minutes.

Now, think about each of these questions for a minute or two each:

1. What is it about “bad boys” or men that aren’t “available” that is attractive to women? And to you?

2. Have you ever dated a guy even though you knew he was a “bad boy” – or found out soon into things?

3. Is there a “nice guy” in your life who would make a great companion but you’re not attracted to or share a “connection” with?

Don’t cheat yourself…

Stop, go back, make sure you take at least 5 minutes of time and think about just these questions…

(Trust me – it’s AMAZING what you can actually learn about the world and yourself if you take a few minutes of silence to think just about ONE THING at a time. It’s maybe the BEST thing I ever started doing for myself!)

I’ll give you some more time…

Ok, so you’ve thought about it. Let’s share our thoughts and compare notes.

*As a quick inside reminder:

This exercise is all about actively improving your ability to know what a good man looks like for YOU and to help you pick ONLY the right men now and in the future.

Picking the wrong men can get you in all kinds of painful trouble it’s hard to get free of.

But for some reason, women don’t want the guys who are probably better relationship and love companions.

I’m not going to give you ALL the answers right now, but I’m going to lead you to finding the answers for yourself – as it’s a much more effective way of learning.

So…. I’m gonna address the last question first about “nice guys”.

A friend of mine sent me an article that was on AOL entitled “What’s Wrong With Nice Guys?”. Here’s a little quote from the article:

“…Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones?”

This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be “good girls,” sometimes we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning “I must have him!” feeling. That’s why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery tapes. “In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be ‘okay,’ it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses, worry-free,” she says…

Interesting, huh?

My friend who sent it to me disagrees with the idea that women seek out “bad boys” because they need somewhere to project their guilty lust, and I agree.

I disagree that there’s something “wrong” with the fact that women are attracted to “bad boys”…

My friend also made the point that the “mainstream” psychology and behavior world is starting to accept the idea that women are attracted to “bad boys”.

There’s something to the idea that woman don’t feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for “nice guys” who chase after them, dote on them and kiss up to them.

A woman might LIKE the experience of the “nice guy” doing nice things, but it doesn’t CREATE attraction or a connection with the woman.

Ever.

Trust me, I know men who are the “nice guy” all the time and they get so frustrated trying so hard to please a woman and get her interested.

But it’s like trying to chew bubble gum to solve calculus problems… It’s hopeless.

And wouldn’t you know it – it works the same way for “nice women”. Being a “nice girl” can’t “convince” a guy to like you just because you do sweet things…

It just doesn’t work like that.

I’ve had women be the “nice girl” with me in the past. There’s two women I can remember from acting overly nice and sweet to try and attract me.

Any attraction that was there started falling away.

THE TRUTH of the matter is – kissing up, convincing and being too “sweet” can kill attraction.

Why?

Our subconscious reacts in ways you often can’t control and aren’t very aware of.

Being too “nice” sends a signal to the “deep” part of the mind that tells you “this person isn’t desirable and is lower status”.

I know, this might sound kind of dark, power-hungry or weird to you, but it’s what happens with us humans.

People don’t value what they can have too easily, whether they admit it or not.

Ultimately, when women are around “nice guys”, they end up unconsciously thinking, “This man isn’t desirable, I shouldn’t date or pursue this guy”.

(Ok, there can be another reason, but I won’t disuss it here but it has to do with people who develop the “nice” persona due to what they feel they personally lack, and thus “nice” people are self-selecting and are actually and less confident and less attractive.)

In the nice guys defense – they might actually have something better to offer a woman in terms of what she SAYS she wants (love, trust, companionship, passion), but the women aren’t able to see it – or see it as something they want.

Why?

Women don’t develop a connection to the nice guy and the “connection” is the MAGIC ingredient for attraction with most women.

Which leads us to the “bad boy”!

You might not agree with me, but women DO feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for “bad boys”.

Of course, I don’t believe that men have to be jerks, or abuse women in order to make them feel attracted to them.

But women have a deep attraction mechanism that’s triggered by men who behave indifferent, superior, cocky, the list goes of “bad” behavior. You’ve seen it.

“Bad boys” often create inviting and intoxicating forms of drama – often perceived as playfulness, sexuality and fun.

When I first talk to women about the bad boy subject, they jump ALL OVER me and completely disagree.

Then I ask them about some of the relationships they’ve had in the past.

And guess what?

Most women realize in the course of the conversation that they’ve dated men they knew fit the “bad boy” profile.

What makes me laugh is that the realization makes them argue with me even more!

So why do women date and continue on with “bad boys”?

The answer to this question when I ask it to women is almost UNIVERSAL.

“We had a great connection”.

Some women call it “chemistry”.

The magic of a connection with a man can be extremely powerful. Often powerful enough to undo all sorts of reasoning abilities and ways of perceiving things.

Women picking and staying with the wrong men is the single biggest mistake I see women make. It’s the most common reason why the thousands of women I hear from can’t find the love and fulfillment they’re looking for.

But there’s help…

I talk about these and other concepts in detail in my eBook, “Catch Him And Keep Him”. You can get your hands on a copy of Catch Him And Keep Him at my website and be reading it in just a few minutes from now.

Plus, you can get it at what is at my risk-

Why don’t you try the book for a week so you can decide if you want to keep it?

If you don’t like it, just let me know and I’ll refund all your money immediately.

Honestly, I think you could learn more in a few hours reading the book than most women might learn in their whole LIVES about how to meet and attract men the right men AND what the specific steps are to develop an amazing relationship he won’t ever want to come to an end.

Go check it out:

Click Here For Your Free Newsletter And eBook Download

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

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Creating “Intense Attraction” With A Man   I’d like to tell you a story…It’s a story that you might find strangely familiar. Don’t be alarmed.Once upon a time, there was a woman who was very attracted to a particular man.At first, he was just another attractive man… but the more she got to know him, the more she began to feel attracted to him… and the more time she spent with him, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for him.But there was one problem.As her emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, she also grew more and more insecure.Why? Because she couldn’t tell whether or not he felt the same way towards her.Sometimes he would talk to her and say things that led her to believe that they shared a special connection, but nothing ever progressed past the “friendship” stage.There was an occasional glance, an occasional email or call from him… and a few times, he even opened up about something personal or emotional, and invited her “inside” for a little while.But something was wrong with the picture. He just wasn’t acting like a man who was “falling in love”. He was acting like a friend, but at times, even more distant than a friend would be.And things seemed to be hot and cold. Sometimes he would look at her and talk to her, and sometimes he would ignore her and close himself off.The insecurity that she felt from all this, became a spiral that amplified itself… and the more insecure she became, the more afraid she grew of “screwing things up” or “scaring him off”, by starting conversations or asking him if he was interested in her and why he didn’t ask her out.Plus, the more insecure she became, the less time he seemed to want to spend with her. After spending days and nights obsessing over this guy, the woman finally arrived at the conclusion that if he only knew how SHE FELT, that he would feel the same way.So she made a bold move.She TOLD HIM how she felt.She confessed her feelings and let him know that she wanted to be with him. He responded by flirting with her and he spent some time alone with her, and they even kissed and held each other.But soon after, he quickly withdrew, didn’t call her and wasn’t really “available” to her.This only confused the woman more.She didn’t know how to take it… Did it mean that he really loved her too, but that he was afraid of something?Did it mean that he wasn’t ready for a long-term relationship?Did it mean that he didn’t love her, and that he was trying to give her a hint?Did it mean that she hadn’t tried hard enough? Did it mean that she needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let him know how she felt?She finally decided that she couldn’t go on like this anymore… she had to be with him.She had to make sure that he knew just how much she wanted to be with him… so she took a big step, bought him a symbolic gift and wrote him a letter… again confessing her feelings.And then, something unthinkable happened. Either he didn’t reply at all… (Ouch!)Or he replied and she connected with him on an emotional and physical level for a brief time, but then he backed away.Then she called him a couple of times, the following week before reaching him.He made an excuse about being very busy and said, “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have to go”… and hung up… but she never got a call back. Over the following months, the woman tried desperately to understand what went wrong… and what happened.THE END…OK, I’m back.Now, wasn’t that a sweet story? Heartwarming, huh?I know; I should keep my day job, and not take-up writing romance novels…Now, let’s talk about that story.That story is basically a MYTH. But I’m not talking about FICTION here.I’m talking about a story that rings true for lots of women. A story that is timeless. A story that resonates at a deep level, because you can IDENTIFY with it.And why does this particular story resonate for some women?Because lots of women have been there in one way or another… at one time or another… and many have been there OFTEN in their lives. Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power, is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs… as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it brings back…Stories and situations like this one, really FASCINATE me.They fascinate me, because I see them as an opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles that they represent.In this particular situation, I think there is a solution. It lies in understanding a SECRET that lots of WOMEN DON’T GET.That secret comes down to the reality that if a man isn’t ATTRACTED to a woman, all of her attempts to confess her love, convince him to like her and court her, BACKFIRE.In other words, they not only DON’T WORK; they actually make things WORSE.In other words, the very things that a woman does to try to make a man LIKE HER, make him NOT like her. They make him run.All of those great intentions and emotional dedication actually cause the woman feeling them, to do things that make the man go away.It sucks!But it’s a strangely common dynamic, that also takes place inside dating situations and new relationships without women (or men) really being aware of it, and understanding what’s going on. And I hope that by explaining the process of how this happens to you, that I’ll help you avoid this painful situation in your own future…And maybe you can start to understand what’s going on a little better, if you think about what it’s like when a man you’re NOT attracted to, desperately wants your attention, affection and your time.Have you ever had a guy pursue you?As he’s trying to get your attention, approval and affection, all of his pleading and effort just seems to bug you more and make you want to get away. Even if all he’s doing, is telling you great things about yourself and how he feels about you?Strange and interesting…Choices And The Paradox Of Attraction I’m always fascinated by the idea that we humans don’t always understand the message that we’re communicating to others…So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message, that others are going to NATURALLY understand what we’re trying to say.Have you ever seen a woman who dresses over-the-top sexy and wears way to much make-up?Have you ever thought to yourself, “I don’t think that her appearance is communicating the message to men that she thinks it is”…? Yeah, I have too.Well, here’s the deal:If you do something to “let a man know how you feel” … but he isn’t open to the situation at that time, or he isn’t ATTRACTED to you, then it’s going to backfire.It’s going to trigger a feeling for the man, that I like to call the “Instant Ewww”.The “Instant Ewww” is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.Once a man feels it, YOU’RE DONE.It’s over.It’s like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin. Once a man feels the “Instant Ewww”, he’ll start behaving differently.In short, he’ll back off or even disappear.So where did I get the concept of the “Instant Ewww”?I got it from watching WOMEN.I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the word “Ewww”, when describing how they felt about a guy that was “confessing his love”… and of course, these were guys that weren’t loved in return by the woman.Men do the same kind of thing with a woman they’re not attracted to.Often they try to be “nice” about it. They let the attention pump up their ego a bit, and then they create what is often an unconscious barrier in their mind, that closes off communication or contact with her.And the resulting vacuum sound you hear, is what’s happening as any ATTRACTION and interest he might have felt, evaporates. So what causes the “Instant Ewww”?And why would a man feel it, towards a woman who was trying to be nice… a woman who was giving him attention, a gift or telling him how she feels?Because if you think about it from HIS perspective, you’ll realize that the moment you do something to “confess”, you’ve created a TURNING POINT in the relationship.Up until that point, you were harmless.I mean, men know when they are getting some “special attention” from a woman.And they usually know it from the beginning.But now that you’ve started pursuing him and talking about how you feel, you’ve created a NEGATIVE TENSION that can be VERY uncomfortable.You’ve triggered an emotion that can actually repel a man and make him even more detached from his emotions. Here’s the thing…You can’t “make a man like you” or “change how he feels about you”, by doing nice things for him.Doing “nice” things for a man who isn’t attracted to you, HURTS you. It backfires. Worse, it creates the “Instant Ewww” feeling, that makes it so he’ll perhaps NEVER like you.Men are the worst at this, by the way.They make this mistake over and over again in life, because they’re doing what MAKES SENSE to them. They’re doing it, because they don’t have an understanding of ATTRACTION.I mean, if you have a friend and you like them, and you want to make them like you more… and you do some nice things for them, they will probably like you more.On the other hand…If you have a man that you “like” in a romantic way, and he doesn’t “feel it” for you, and you do something nice for him, because you want HIM to like you more, it will BACKFIRE… and he will not only NOT like you more, but he will most likely distance himself from you. Women think that they need to communicate verbally when they like a man… as if that’s part of the necessary process of getting a guy.In their minds, it goes like this:Like him>Tell him you like him>He likes youWell, remember… if you follow this pattern, yourself, with men who aren’t already ATTRACTED to you, then it’s going to BACKFIRE.If he’s not into you, then it goes like THIS:He thinks of you as a friend>You tell him you like him>He gets the “Instant Ewwws” and withdraws…THE ANSWER There are really TWO answers to this problem.The first answer, is what to do if you’re in a situation where you like a particular guy, but you don’t know if he likes you back.DON’T GET HEAVY WITH HIM. Don’t buy him a big gift, do something nice to show him how much you think about him or write him a love letter…Don’t send him a note to his work that says, “From your secret admirer”.Don’t call him several times, without hearing from him.And DON’T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for him. If you want to know how he feels about you, do something to ATTRACT HIM and see how he reacts instead of telling him you love him and hearing the crickets chirp as you wait for his response.As a rule of thumb, don’t get heavier than HIM. Use SIGNALS from him to find out how he feels… and if you don’t know how to read and create those signals, then LEARN.Asking a man if he’s interested in you in a romantic way, or if you are “his type”, will actually DESTROY the chances that his attraction and interest in you will grow.Really. The SECOND answer, is to not get into this particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it entirely.And how does one do that?One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the beginning.One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why men have the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered. One does that by knowing what you’re doing FROM THE BEGINNING.And what’s the best way to learn THAT skill?I thought you’d never ask…Well, I’ve written about attraction before and I’ll write about it again. In my eBook, I talk about some of the very best ways to learn how to make man feel ATTRACTION for you.But above and beyond the meeting and attracting men “stuff”, I also talk about how attraction, communication, psychology and emotions all play into the longer term “stuff” around dating, and creating a solid foundation for a future relationship.In my eBook, I go deep inside the mind of a man to tell you the secrets and truths that lots of women will never know about.The eBook is called “Catch Him And Keep Him”. I’ve spent several years now, studying the ways that women (and men) who are “naturals”, communicate using their words, voice tone and body language.The way they integrate all these, makes them MAGNETIC to be around. And you probably know what I’m talking about, if you know any women who seem “lucky in love”. Where everything involving men seems to come easily and effortlessly to them.And I’ll tell you… it’s not magic.You don’t have to be gorgeous or young. And you don’t have to be LUCKY.What you DO have to do is LEARN.It’s a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY woman can learn it if she wants.But you’re not likely to figure it out by “trial and error”. Many of the keys to making men feel ATTRACTION and want to be around you for the long-term aren’t “obvious”, at all. In fact, many of them make no sense… and they’re the LAST thing you’d do in a particular situation, if you didn’t know the SECRETS.For more about these secrets, go check out my eBook.It’s jam-packed with insights, concepts, tips and secrets.Go here to check it out: Click Here For Your Free Newsletter And eBook Download Thanks and best of luck in life and love. Your Friend,Christian Carter   ©Copyright 2008, Catch Him Inc. All Rights Reserved.Copyright materials used by permission.“Catch Him And Keep Him” and “Christian Carter” are trademarks of Catch Him Inc.

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Online Dating: A Man’s Most Important State of Mind
Online Dating: A Man’s Most Important State of MindThere are untold riches in the form of female companionship waiting for you online if only you’ll change one thought regarding how you’ll find success there.

Most men have this idea that they are “winning” when they take a woman to bed. Somehow, they’ve won the prize.

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Online Dating: Four Reasons Why Men Should Be Online (And one reason why they shouldn’t)

Men, if you don’t already have women chasing after you every day, then you should be dating women online. Here are the Four most compelling reasons why men should be seeking out and meeting women online, and one reason why they absolutely shouldn’t. Click here to read the full article.

The Many Benefits of an Online Dating Service

Using an online dating service to find dates was once frowned upon and even considered scary. However, times have changed and so have the amount of people who not only approve of using an online dating service but the amount of people actually using an online dating service! Amazingly, the invention of the online dating service has gotten people out and about and dating again. If you are looking for a date, but still are a bit skeptical about using an online dating service, consider the following benefits an online dating service can provide. Click here to read the full article.

Online Dating Made Easy and Safe

As technology becomes more ingrained in our everyday lives, more people are turning to the Internet for social purposes. And over the past few years, this has become a more accepted form of communication. Friendships are formed and relationships made online. Click here to read the full article.

Dating Online – The New Way To Meet People

A lot has changed since the days of matchmaking and escorted evenings out. Dating in the 21st century has taken many turns, among these the emerging popularity of meeting partners online. Click here to read the full article.

Dating Advice: Three Mistakes to Avoid When Writing an Online Dating Service Profile

After four years of reading more than 10,000 profiles of men and women looking for a partner through online dating services, I’ve laughed at my fair share of poorly written introductions. Click here to read the full article.

Online Dating Secrets For Single Men

There is no need for single men to be lonely. Online dating has an infinite supply of women eager to meet men!!

Looking To Meet Women?

Craving Female Company? Click here to read the full article.

Online Dating Consideration Ideas

So, you’ve decided to take a chance and try online dating. You’ve checked out the sites, posted a little bit of information about yourself and what you’re looking for and possibly browsed the potential contacts that you would like to make. More than likely, a few people have piqued your interest and you think you’re ready to make contact. Here are a few suggestions to get you started. Click here to read the full article.

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